Abrupt Ending to a Decade-Long Friendship?

My client, in her thirties, of British nationality, came for a Past Life Regression therapy session to understand about the abrupt ending of her 10 year-long friendship with someone whom she regarded as her best friend, leaving her perplexed and seeking clarity through the session. She regressed to a time in ancient Greece and through the regression, she understood the origins of this issue. 

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Below is her PLR experience:

Client: "I’m in an ancient city, made from stone. It is white / cream in colour. It’s busy. There are people everywhere. They are working. They wear peasant clothes; loose materials, rags. Some people are transporting goods, some are messing around with their friends. Their skin colour are like people of Greek, Egyptian or Mediterranean origin."

"I’m a man. Very strong, tall and tanned. I’m wearing sandals. I’m carrying a log over my shoulder. It’s a very simple life – old and ancient."

Me: "Go to the place where you live"

Client: "I live in a 2-storey house made of white clay, with a balcony. It’s terraced. There are other houses next to it. Inside the house, there are mats on the floor. There is a stove fireplace. It is used to heat some tea. The first storey is a kitchen and living room. The second storey is a bedroom."

Me: "What country are you in?"

Client: "I’m in Greece."

Me: "Do you live alone or with anyone?"

Client: "I have a mum and a brother. I’m somewhere in my late twenties to early thirties. We are eating chopped tomato and cucumber, with bread, olive oil and cheese."

"I have a good relationship with my younger brother. We get on well. He admires me and looks up to me. We do many things together."

I moved client forward to the next scene:

Client: "My brother is in distress and needs my help. He’s panicking. I can’t understand him. He’s speaking in another language."

I guided the client to understand what the brother, in his mid-twenties, was saying. During the past life regression session, if the client isn’t able to understand what a person is saying in the past life scene, due to a different language, I will guide them to understand the dialogue or communication taking place.  

Client: "He is saying, “You have to come and help! There’s a collapse!” He’s in panic."

"His friends were in some sort of cave, the roof caved in and they were trapped in the rubble. There’s nothing I can do. I feel like I can’t help him."

"I’m trying to tell my brother that there’s nothing we could do. The stones are too heavy to lift. I told him that they shouldn’t have been in there in the first place. My brother was just outside when it happened."

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"After that incident, my brother resented me. He changed. A part of him died that day. He really resented me and sort of blamed me in many ways. He felt judged by me as I had warned him against going there. He was tired of me being right. He felt that we should have tried but we didn’t even try."

"I tried to tell him that it was futile. There was nothing that could be done. We had gone to the cave but found that the entrance to the cave was totally blocked. He was in a lot of guilt. If things had somehow been different, his friends could have been saved. But the stones were too heavy, none of us could lift it. I don’t know if they were doing something with dynamite that caused it to rupture, but they were doing something they shouldn’t.”

I moved client forward to the end of life. 

Client: "I had regrets about how I reacted towards my brother, I wish I hadn’t made him feel small, in that he was somehow lesser. I could have been more tactful in how I approached him and cared for him. It was never the same after that, ‘cos it really affected his life. He struggled to let go of what happened and blamed me in many ways. I wish I had helped or had tried to move the rocks for his sake, that I tried to help when he needed me."

 

I facilitated a healing and forgiveness session to help the client to heal and let go.  After the session, I asked the client to reflect if there were parallels in this current life and the past life. She replied affirmatively, recognizing a pattern in her behavior towards her friend. She realised that she had previously reacted similarly towards her friend, being highly critical and judgemental of her friend’s actions.

She had unconsciously carried forward the same behavioural traits to this life, treating her friend in the same manner as she had treated the younger brother in the past life. Therefore, her friend's reactions were unsurprising, given the dynamics at play. She is uncertain if their friendship would improve, but she expressed a sense of relief as she had a deeper understanding of where this issue originated from.

Lifetime as a busy businessman in England

Continued from the earlier post about client wanted to find the connection with his current life close friends: http://plr-therapy.blogspot.com/2012/04/past-life-experience-watching-witch.html

There’s a beautiful garden with a river. There are a lot of people here, looking really happy…laughing and talking. They look like Europeans. There’s a big open space, with water, and people are having a picnic. There’s a big building at the back.

I’m a man… very tall, very lean…white skinned. I’m in the army. I’m wearing army uniform. There are many women around, and I’m socialising with them….having a good time, laughing a lot.

I’m riding out of the building on a horse. I was shot in the chest by rebel. I fall off the horse.

I’m in a nursing home. I recognize the maid as my current life friend. She is taking care of me. I’m injured but it feels quite pleasant being there with her. We have a lot of fun conversation.

It feels like England. I’m in a little town. I’m in the top room, lying there, recovering. She comes everyday to help and clean. We become great friends.

I’m ok now. We’re walking on the streets, hand in hand, looking really happy. We’re on a boat on a big river. She’s looking also really happy. Some houses had piers. It looks like England. The top of a building there has 1534 on it. It’s a beautiful town. I’m really happy there. I’m married now (to the woman who was a maid). We have 3 kids.

After I recovered, I was no more in the army; I was doing trading with ships… selling things. I was a businessman. I made a lot of money. It came quite easily to me. I had a lot of friends who helped also, always around me. We are in a shop talking. I seemed to be very focused on work, making money and neglected the children, maybe my wife too. I see myself working and working…but having fun.

I’m walking on the street…. I’m drinking in the pubs with friends. I’ve been quite drunk but feeling isolated. I still feel very separated from them. I left the pub and walked alone in the streets at night. I go to someone’s house. It’s a lady friend. We have a relationship. I see the building she lived in. She owns a hotel. She’s a successful businesswoman. We seem to have more in common. People don’t know about our relationship.

There’s a garden inside the hotel. We spend a lot of time in the garden. We liked the garden. We go travelling also. We go to hills with a lot of slopes… A place with cliffs going into the sea. We have a business there also. It’s like a pub, which sells food and beer. We go there often. That’s why I neglected the family. I was bored also. It was too easy. She was very kind. There was lot of care. There was no excitement. With this person, there was excitement. I was too lazy to be a father. I liked children but wasn’t too responsible or involved in their lives. I spent more time working and being with this woman.

I’m walking in nature. It seems like I can’t sleep. I’m outdoors…. just walking to another lady friend’s house. I have a relationship with someone else. It’s not a serious relationship. I don’t spend a lot of time there. I see myself walking most of the time. I see horse carriages there. There’s symbol on the carriage - a castle with a plant next to it.

End of lifetime:

I see myself being really old in bed and again my wife is taking care of me. I’m coughing really badly. I picked up something (infection). I’m not well. I’m coughing blood….She’s taking care of me….Very faithful. She looks all grey but still very beautiful. I feel that I’ll miss her so much. The children are around. My boy is very close to me. He’s always there. He looks really sad. He’s a big boy now. They are all waiting for me to die. I’m 78. My wife is in her 60's. She’s younger than me. My son is about 40. We have been close. I know I’ll miss him too. (Client recognizes son as his current life nephew whom he is supporting).

I see myself passing on. I’m out of the body looking down at everyone. They are all very sad. We were very close. It was a very good life. I see them crying. There’s something I needed to do with my son. He seemed very afraid in that life. He never came out and did very much. He lived in fear. He couldn’t talk. He looked so lonely. I regretted not being able to help. I wish I had helped him….but I didn’t know how. He did look unhealthy….very skinny…with sunken eyes. But he was very good. I wish I had done more with him.

Reflection:

I had lots of regrets for that life. It was a life where I was happy. I could have done so much more for others. I was too focused on my own happiness. There’s a sense of regret there. Things I should have done that I didn’t do especially for my son. I think I was blind to many things that were happening around me. A lot of things came very easily. It was a good life, a very spoilt life, my wife spoilt me too. She gave me everything. I was really happy with that, and it made me quite blind. Although there were many good things, it seems like a lot was wasted. I regret not being loyal to my wife. I regret not spending more time with my son.

In the spirit realm:

I see clouds breaking up. I’m moving to a clean white room. It’s really bright and white. I’m just enjoying the feeling of the room. It feels very pure and easy, effortless. It feels like I’m a child being held….being loved. The room doesn’t have form. No shape and dimension. The room is flying.

 

Current life connection and understanding:

Client understood the connection with his nephew and close friends. A week later, client shared that he was surprised to find that he related to his nephew quite differently (was more compassionate towards him) after the PLR session, as he now sees the bigger picture.  Interestingly, the gunshot wound to his chest in that past life corresponded to a keloid scar on his chest which appeared mysteriously, and even having it surgically removed, the scar appeared again. 

Past life experience – Watching a witch trial in Edinburgh, Scotland in the 17th century

Client wanted to find the connection with his current life close friends. He went back to 2 lifetimes. One was in Edinburgh, Scotland. 

I’m in Edinburgh, Scotland. In the square… waiting for someone to appear. I’m in front of a church. I’m waiting for someone to appear at the church door. It’s a trial.

I’m a white lady, with reddish hair, blue eyes, round face…young. Maybe 16 years old. I’m female, wearing a dress.

I feel quite excited. There are a lot of people with me. Waiting for the person about to be condemned. It is like a fun fair atmosphere, with laughter and anticipation.

I see the person. It’s an older lady. She’s on trial for witchcraft. She looks like my (current life) friend. She looks very old and haggard. She’s still calm. We are all jeering at her. She’s on a platform in front of the church. She’s going to be burned at the stake. The year is 1626.

They’re taking her away to be burned. There’s lots of excitement. They enjoy watching it. It seems like a fun event.

I’m just part of the crowd. I joined everyone and have a good time

I see her being burned. Initially, I felt nothing, then I got upset. I’m standing behind her, I can’t see her face. The crowd is watching in horror. I can see fire in her hair. The mood has shifted. Now they feel remorse.

There is a man with a beard. He’s a big man with a big hat -- a judge or priest or something like that. He looks big and powerful. He’s heartless and not open. He doesn’t care. He’s a cold hearted man.

It’s a Sunday.

There’s a smell from the river – a bad smell.

I can see the houses on the slopes. People are leaving. The place is becoming empty. We go and sit in a shop... all girl friends. We are talking about what happened. About how wrong it was. Our mood is very different from when it started, we were all quite upset and angry…reflective.

I see a man on a horse. He is a man of authority. I’m angry with him because he’s part of authority. He looks like a younger version of that earlier man. He’s looking at us looking at him with anger. He rounds us all up. He called his backup soldiers. He sends us to jail. All four of us.

We’re in a dungeon waiting to be condemned. My hands are chained. I’m quite rebellious. I see the guy cutting my neck with a dagger, a deep cut. There’s blood.  It seems senseless, what he’s doing. I’m lying on a flat stone table. It feels like I’m waiting to die but I’m still conscious. In my mind, I think I want to fit back but I can’t. I really want to fight back.

They know I’m not dead but they threw me into the river. That’s where they throw all the people who are injured or dead. That’s why the smell is there. Lots of dead bodies just dumped into the river. The river is not deep. I can see my body. Lying with other bodies. I don’t look the same as I did earlier.

The sun is setting. It is late in the evening. I see one of my friends also in the river. She looks like one of my close friend (a guy) in my current life. She still looks good.

The place is high in the mountains. They use the river as a sewer.

She was my best friend in that life. We were very close. More like family. I told her I’ll see her again. I wanted to be with her again.

I can see the sun, really bright, bright gold. It’s beautiful. It feels good. I feel like I’m part of the sun. 

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Selina Chew, Ph.D, C.Ht

Certified Past Life Regression Therapist

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