Testimony - phobia of death / wake / cemetery

Testimony of Madam L, in her late-fifties, on how she overcame her personal phobias relating to anything connected with death / wake / cemetery

Before I went to seek therapy from Dr. Selina Chew, I had several phobias and was already suffering from OCB (Obsessive Compulsive Behavior) syndrome for several years and was taking medication prescribed by my psychiatrist to keep control of my OCB condition. 

For the past 12 years, due to certain triggering events, I had phobias on anything that is connected with death of people / wake / cemetery or be associated with sick people especially those that are suffering from cancer. I was always very fearful of being contaminated with “dirt” from people who touched me or who come near me after they had attended the wake of a dead person or who had been to a cemetery recently or visited a dying person suffering from terminal cancer. 

Consequently, I was driven to clean my house constantly whenever we returned home after we have gone outside to shop or dine, as I was fearful that the people we came into contact with while we were outside the house, had been to one of the places mentioned above. 

I became even more fearful whenever I saw one of those directional placards to a wake in residential areas while I was driving or when I passed by a funeral hearse. I had anxiety attacks and immediately felt pain in my forehead. After that, I would avoid driving through that area for several days or even weeks. I also avoided driving pass cemeteries and would take a longer detour to get to my destination. Whenever I had no choice but to pass those directional placards to a wake or cemeteries, I had to change my clothes immediately and take a shower when I got back home. I had to throw away those clothes that I had worn earlier, as I feared being ‘contaminated’. 

Over a period of time and because of the above phobias and my OCB condition, I became highly anxious about almost everything including dealing with and when performing routine household chores which then affected the quality of my sleep and sometimes making me feeling depressed. I lost weight and was exhausted from obsessive cleaning things around the house. I had the obsession to clean my car tyres and to clean the car porch every time I parked in my garage. I had to ensure that I cleaned them and complete all my household chores, before I could retire for the day. I was even doing more work than my maid, as I didn’t allow my maid to do certain cleaning chores. 

Whenever it was the yearly “Qing Ming” (Chinese All Soul’s day) period, I was afraid to go out shopping especially for fruits or vegetables, as I feared that the fruits or vegetables would be ‘contaminated’ from being touched by people who had gone to the graves to pray for their deceased ancestors. When dining out, I was afraid of being served by people who had gone for “Qing Ming” prayers. I was fearful of being in contact with people who had been to pray for their deceased ancestors during this period. During last year’s “Qing Ming” period, I had severe anxiety attacks and almost collapsed out of fear. 

While the medication from my psychiatrist does help to reduce my physical condition but it could not help me to overcome my psychological fears on the phobias mentioned above. 

However, after several sessions of past life regression and hypnotherapy with Dr. Selina Chew, I found that my phobias could have originated from one of my past lives when I was a boy then, who was seen playing on and around other people’s graves in a cemetery, which could be the cause of my present life’s karma on having phobias on anything connected with death, funeral and cemetery. I also went back to the age of 8 in my current life, when I first attended a funeral – that of my grandfather in Thailand. His coffin was huge and scary looking. It was a fearful event for me as I was just a little girl witnessing something that I didn’t understand, whilst everyone around me was crying. My conscious mind had totally forgotten about it but it was there in my subconscious mind when I regressed. Those and several other events in my current life when I was a child were probably what caused those fears and phobias in me. 

Together with the past life regression and hypnotherapy and healing therapy given by Dr. Selina Chew during those sessions, I am feeling a lot better these days. 

I feel a lot calmer nowadays and I no longer get anxious easily while dealing with matters and performing my various household chores. I stopped washing my car tyres and my car porch since the beginning of this year, whereas in the past, it had to be done every time I got back home. Furthermore, nowadays when I am driving and whenever I passed by a directional placard to a wake in a residential area, I feel a lot calmer and do not have the anxiety attacks that I used to experience in the past. The headaches were gone too. I got my normal weight back and looked better and felt happier. 

I was able to sit at the same table with a friend whose father had recently passed away, whereas I couldn’t have done so before this. During the recent “Qing Ming” period, I quite calm and was able to even dine out several times and attend a religious gathering with hundreds of people around me, who would have definitely attended the “Qing Ming” prayers. 

In view of these improvements, I am able to sleep better and do not suffer from depression anymore and I am able to lead a much normal and happier life. 

Therefore, I would like to take this opportunity to thank Dr. Selina Chew for her help to enable me to overcome my phobias mentioned above. 

13th April, 2010 

Depression and negativity

I have been suffering from depression for many years and had sought many ways to heal my depression. There was no single solution there to help until my friend recommended me to attend Past Life Regression therapy. 

At first, I was a little sceptical about the effect from this therapy. However, I decided to give it a try since I found nothing better that could heal my condition. 

After attending the 1st session, I found myself slightly improving. My emotional feelings were more stable and I was able to start letting go of my negative emotions. Also, I could start appreciating the good things in my life, whereas before this PLR session, I felt that I was totally lost and drowning in negativity. I was also not comfortable with my surroundings and at work. 

I am still learning and focusing on what was been told by Dr. Selina, and now, I am feeling calmer than before. Before this, my mind seemed uncontrollable and automatically focused on the negative. Now, I am able to move on and improve on positive thinking in my daily life, and I am still practising everyday the advice taught by Dr. Selina. 

Once again, I need to thank Dr. Selina for patiently advising me on each of my doubts.”

Ms. A 
28 March 2010 

Going back home to another planet

Client, in her mid thirties was feeling stuck and lost and had had problem focussing on work or anything functional in life. She felt  apathetic and very reluctant to do anything constructive and was identified being in depression. She felt disconnected from the society around her and finds it hard to fit in. In her younger days, thoughts of suicide came into her mind. Below is her own written account of her experiences during her first session. 

21 March 2010

It was with a lot of difficulty that I finally could see some image. Otherwise it was mostly darkness. 

The first image I saw was of my feet. They were brown and dusty when I stepped off the cloud. The ground was dry, brown soil with brown pebbles. It felt like I was wearing shorts and a shirt made from brownish coarse cotton and they were dirty. I looked up and saw a very blur image of a village in the tropics. There was a large flat landscape. 

Selina brought me inside the village. I had the impression of a man standing and a woman sitting on the dirt floor in the village walkway. Everyone seemed very poor and depressed. There was no cheer in the village. 

She asked me to go to my house in the village. I approached a doorway of what looks like part of a very shambled hut, made of tin sheets and wood. The inside of the hut was very dark and dirty. 

I wasn’t going anywhere or able to see anything clearly here, but I could gather that I was a destitute 15-year-old.

So, Selina asked me to imagine that I’m in a dark tunnel. I should walk to the other end of the tunnel to go to another lifetime. I walked and reached the other end of the tunnel and entered a very bright place.

She asked what I could see. At first, it was just white light, then I saw my hand touching a white wall. Then, the picture filled up with the image of a room with a domed ceiling. In the middle of the domed ceiling, a very prominent and clear beam of light shone down onto the floor. There were 2 men dressed in long robes which looked like white or off white. 

One of them was standing, while another sat on a sofa at the end of the room. I was standing near the man who was not seated, but I couldn’t see his face. I could only see the face of the one sitting. He was a Caucasian with a white beard, hair, moustache and eyebrows. He had a kindly and neutral expression, and he was looking my way.

Selina told me to go speak to him, so I walked towards him and asked him, “Where am I?” 
I could not see his lips move, but a message came clearly to my mind, “This is home.” The minute I received that, tears started rolling down from my face; not in the visualisation, but in real-time, physically. I felt choked up with emotions and couldn’t stop crying. 

Selina told me to ask him to show me around the place. I did so and I could see his big hand take mine, as we floated through a white corridor. I couldn’t see any other image except of our hands held and a white corridor without lines or walls. 

When we reached the opening, I looked out from a very high point down on a flat valley. There was a curved wall by my right side where we stood. Tiny white, low buildings with flat roofs dotted the valley of green but there were no trees. There was no sky. Instead, there was a kind of shield over the valley. It didn’t seem like the planet that we lived in. 

Selina asked me to explore the place. Still holding the old man’s hand, I could see we were on a small dirt alley in the valley. The colour of the dirt was beige. I had the impression that there was some kind of agricultural activity going on at my left but I couldn’t see anything clearly. 

She urged me to ask for the name of the place. I could sense that he said something to me, but I simply couldn’t get the name. It was foreign sounding. The message couldn’t go through. 

Instead, I asked him, “Who are you?” He said, “I’m your father.” I started to cry again profusely. 

He added, “Father of all.” I couldn’t speak for the longest time because I was too choked up with tears. 

Then, Selina prompted me to ask him what my purpose on Earth is. I did so and after a long time, I got the message “To bring joy.” Yet again, I cried. 

When I stopped crying, Selina prompted the question, “How to bring joy?’ I couldn’t receive anymore images or messages, so she ended the session and it was way over time anyway. 

Throughout the entire process there were breaks in the flow of images and I was too conscious of my real-time surroundings. Towards the end, it was harder for me to stay at the place. The images kept fading away, or I kept disappearing from the place. She had to constantly bring me back to focus. 

Then came the healing part. She asked me to go somewhere I feel safe and .. i think, can heal. 

I ended up in the very same white, domed room. This time I sat right under the beam of light. It was bright but not glaring. I could look right into its centre and not hurt my eyes. The light was comforting.

Selina asked the other man there to give me some healing for the mind and body. He stood next to me and made a circular motion above my head. I was seated on the ground with knees held up to my chest, comfortably. He made some kind of gesture and I felt energy passing through me. I saw from an onlooker’s point of view a circular wave of energy pass down from my head to the ground. There was a feeling of peace and calm in the room. 

After the session, I noticed that I felt at peace and somewhat happier. Later on in the day, I noticed that I had no lower back pain even though I sat for solid 3 hours on the sofa talking to my friend. I only started feeling the back ache after I reached home later at night and even then it was very mild. On normal days the back ache is prominent and is a nagging pain irregardless of what posture I am in.

Ms. K